Who to Invite…and who not to invite!
When you are deciding on your very important guest list, you may very well come up against the age old problem of who to (and not to) send wedding invitations to.
There will, of course, be the must-have list which include very close family such as parents, siblings, and your best friends who simply have to be there. You may have question marks over his good mate Dave who smells a bit funny, and he may well pull a face at your Uni-mate Susie who he feels has never quite liked him…but you eventually convince each other that these are your ‘people’ and you come to some arrangement.
The difficulty is when both of your families feel that there should be someone sent a wedding invitation who you weren’t intending on inviting to the ceremony. It’s one thing to fork out an extra few quid on an extra bod at the evening buffet, but quite another to have to pay for that person for the wedding breakfast and reserve them a pew close to the altar.
Situations like this must be handled delicately – but firmly! If you have a parent who is on their own, it is perfectly acceptable for them to bring a plus one. You parents inviting half the neighbourhood, including butcher, newsagent and the old lady they say hello to when they pick up the Sunday papers – is not.
Remind your loved ones that you have a budget and are trying to stick to it, or reinforce that you are looking for a more intimate ceremony and the village can come along to the evening part and bop til they drop!
